April 20, 2011

About Those Reality Checks

“You can’t cash a reality check, until you to make an invested commitment to change your future.”

How many times have you gone through the process of a reality check and decided that the effort and the commitment required to change, improve, or go for something was not simply worth the outcome?

This is called the audit process (The Third A).  This is where we look at our situation, examine what is required to improve, change or accomplish and decided that the return on effort, return on investment, or risk is simply too great relative to the outcome or the current situation.

Your reality check is actually keeping you in check and not enabling or encouraging you to take action.  This is perfectly acceptable.  For, if you are not ready to commit to something and your evaluation of the process says it is not worth it, then it is not time – yet.  Keep in mind, like any investment, you cannot start reaping the benefits until you actually make the investment.  If your reality check is keeping you from taking action, you need to be honest and aware of the situation and determine if this is what you really want.  Do you really want to delay the vision and dreams that you have for your future?  Is this investment really as risky or unrewarding as your reality check or audit tells you?

Part of the awareness, assessment and audit process is designed to help you clearly understand where you are, where you want to be, and what it will take to get you there.  The reality check can be that voice of caution and self-limiting beliefs that are fighting to keep you stuck and not allowing you to move forward toward your dreams.  This is why you need to revisit the conversation regarding where you are and where you want to be.  Investing in anything involves risk.  There is always the potential of failure.  What is worse, moving forward and failing, only to move forward again; or, not moving forward at all and deciding somewhere down the road you wish you had been moving all along?

Before you allow your reality check to stop you from investing in a commitment to a new future, please make certain you are clear on what that means as it relates to remaining in your present.  If you can live with the present for now and your future can wait – stay put.  However, if you realize that your present needs to change, make the commitment and the investment.  That reality check is a tricky process, use it wisely and with a positive belief in your dreams and your abilities when you do it.

About Dave Cooke

Dave Cooke is a dad on a mission. His mission is to help parents get control of their lives over the powerful, destructive influences of a child's addiction. As the father of a son in a ten year heroin battle, Dave knows all to well the challenges parents and families face. He also knows there is a way to find peace in the chaos. It is his mission to help parents discover their path to a healthier, balanced life even if a child's active addiction is still part of their daily journey.