July 18, 2011

Attitude Defines Everything

“Don’t let your golf game determine your attitude, let your attitude determine your golf game.” ~ Ken Brown (former pro golfer)

I would be lying if I told you that the past few weeks have been a challenge for me.  Some personal events have knocked me into a bit of a funk that I have been wrestling to get through with my confidence intact.  As I watched Darren Clarke celebrate his 2011 British Open Championship and heard this quote during his celebration, I was reminded that much of what I had learned and experienced and shared the past few months.

Life’s events do not determine our attitude, our attitude defines life’s events.

This is a story of a man at age 42, with young boys 10 and 12, who lost his first wife to cancer six years ago.  This was his 20th major championship appearance and his first major victory.  The whole time he was on the course, he focused on enjoying the journey and appreciated the people who were celebrating with him and for him.  He has always been a positive and likable person.  He took six weeks off from golf to focus on taking care of his children after his wife passed away.  And, here he is a champion – both on the course and off.  Life’s events did not define his life; his attitude defined its direction.

Even though I am feeling the pressure, disappointment, and pain of Brandon’s recent setbacks, I have to focus on my attitude first.  I have learned a lot the past few months.  Business is improving significantly.  I can see and feel the connection I am making through, with and for others through the 100 Pedals experience.  That Brandon didn’t succeed on his journey does not prevent me from continuing and succeeding on mine.  Despite the frustration of the negative events, I have the ability, through my attitude to maintain progress and accomplish those things that I have made a significant commitment to.  The events that occur in life do not define me, through my attitude I define the outcomes in my life.

Keep on marching with force, purpose and faith!

About Dave Cooke

Dave Cooke is a dad on a mission. His mission is to help parents get control of their lives over the powerful, destructive influences of a child's addiction. As the father of a son in a ten year heroin battle, Dave knows all to well the challenges parents and families face. He also knows there is a way to find peace in the chaos. It is his mission to help parents discover their path to a healthier, balanced life even if a child's active addiction is still part of their daily journey.