June 11, 2012

It’s Your Turn To Deliver Positive

Positive is ours to live, give, and be — make those around you positive, too!

There is nothing I enjoy more than being around people who energize and inspire me.  It is in this interaction where I obtain perspectives and information that enlighten and educate me. I thrive on it — who doesn’t?

Unfortunately there is the other reality — those that have not yet found their peace, joy, or passion.  It is often these people who challenge us most.  They are the ones who inadvertently and unconsciously inject their dissatisfaction and unhappiness in our lives.  Their intrusion into our positive existence is painful, distracting, frustrating, and challenging.  Negative people definitely interrupt my commitment to be more positive in my life.

If we could, we would like nothing other than to surround ourselves with positive, inspiring people everyday.  I know a lot of people who have made a commitment to cut negative people out of their lives.  While this is a choice that I completely understand, I would like to offer a different and more challenging alternative.

We all come to this place in our lives from different backgrounds, experiences, and lessons.  Who we are and how we got to this point is the result of a wide ranging combination of relationships, choices, successes, and failures.  Our ability to see or think clearly about the positive aspects or opportunities in our life is a byproduct of the people who stepped in and guided us when we ourselves were not so clear or happy. The gift of their enlightenment and their love to us is part of what brought us to our positive, aware place.

Because we benefited from the love, guidance, teaching, and inspiration of others in our darkest most challenging moments, do we have the right to withhold that same energy from the people who need us most?  Think about it for a minute. I am pretty confident you see where I am going with this.

Lost, unhappy, and negative people need us more than the positive ones.  Those negative people who exist in your life are the ones who can benefit most from your focused commitment to the positives in your life.  This does not mean that you have to change their viewpoint or tell them what they need to do to turn their life around. They probably wouldn’t get it or understand anyway.

Instead, avoid giving audience to their negativity and interrupt it with your positivity. When someone says something negative or demotivating, respond with your positive, inspiring take on the same thought.  Three things happen when you do this.  First, their comments are not validated. Second, you left them with something to think about. Finally, you validate your passion for the positive aspects of your life that inspire you and keep you moving forward.

There are plenty of lost and hurting souls in this world.  It would be easy to make a commitment to moving them out of your life.  This is neither productive or giving. Instead of cutting negative people out of your life, make a commitment to consistently share the positive perspectives that you celebrate in yours.  If they don’t see it, hear it or understand it — that is their challenge.  It is up to you to give them that opportunity to discover it; for I am confident someone did it for you at one point in your life!

About Dave Cooke

Dave Cooke is a dad on a mission. His mission is to help parents get control of their lives over the powerful, destructive influences of a child's addiction. As the father of a son in a ten year heroin battle, Dave knows all to well the challenges parents and families face. He also knows there is a way to find peace in the chaos. It is his mission to help parents discover their path to a healthier, balanced life even if a child's active addiction is still part of their daily journey.