March 28, 2012

Lesson One: Embrace Responsibility

“Accountability is what remains when responsibility has been subtracted.”

When discussing the lesson of embracing responsibility, there are three components to this lesson:

1. I own my current situation:

a. I am here as a direct result of all the decisions I have made in my life.
b. I am here because I am supposed to be here.

All the choices and decisions that I have made in my life have brought me to this place. There
is not one aspect of these decisions that could alter the outcome of my being here for I am the
one who brought me to this place in my life. While it would be easy to assign blame to others
for their role in my life and the contributions they have made in these outcomes of my
decisions and my choice; the only person responsible for the ultimate outcomes of my choices
is me. I embrace, with full responsibility, the inevitability and unavoidability of my being here

2. It is up to me to define and determine where I will go from here:

a. The lessons from my past provide me insight into my future decisions and outcomes.
b. The pace at which I move is far too powerful to measure in terms any accountability.

The outcomes I desire in my future are defined solely by my attitude and my effort. As it is my
decisions that brought me here, it will be the decisions toward my future that empower me to
move from here. Though I will enlist and embrace the guidance and support of others, my
future outcomes are ultimately defined by me. Because I have been empowered by the
honest reality of my situation, I passionately embrace those opportunities which exist in front
of me. As I embrace responsibility for my future outcomes, the pace at which I will be moving
will be faster and more powerful than any accountability measurements.

3. What appears as obstacles are actually learning opportunities:

This is not the trip I signed up for; I must trust that this journey has been designed
specifically for me and I need to learn from these experiences in order to share my lessons
with others.”

Embracing responsibility for my journey is honest, positive, and empowering. My past and
future decisions have defined how I got here and where I will be going. In the course of this
journey I have been blessed with the knowledge and experience of tremendous lessons that I
can draw from and share with others. As I am responsible for all of my past and future
choices, I am also responsible for embracing all opportunities to learn and grow moving
forward – even in the face of adversity. This journey is my destiny; it is the conscious embrace
of these experiences and their lessons that provides me the greatest insights and growth.
And, it is the sharing of the education in the journey that provides a fulfilling gift to both self
and others.

About Dave Cooke

Dave Cooke is a dad on a mission. His mission is to help parents get control of their lives over the powerful, destructive influences of a child's addiction. As the father of a son in a ten year heroin battle, Dave knows all to well the challenges parents and families face. He also knows there is a way to find peace in the chaos. It is his mission to help parents discover their path to a healthier, balanced life even if a child's active addiction is still part of their daily journey.