May 4, 2011

Managing Disruptive Voices

“I am really driven, but my drive doesn’t effect the conversations I have in my head about life, and my worries and fears and insecurities.” ~ Zach Braff

It is amazing the power in the conversations we have in our head.  No matter how driven, focused, and intent we are, those conversations in our head can still attempt to derail us.  And, despite our many successes and positive experiences, our head sometimes still has not caught on that we are moving toward a much better place in our life.  It is as if the conversations in our head are resistant to change and will always be there to disrupt our celebrations and our drive.

This is why it is so important for us to focus on internalizing and celebrating our passion, our purpose and our gifts and talents as it relates to our goals.  What we know, embrace, hold true in heart and soul is a much stronger force than chatter in our head.  For what we develop and nurture deep inside becomes the fortress against all other noise, regardless of the source.  While it is the head that creates and sustains thoughts – positive or negative – it is up to you to actually turn them into reality.  When you discover and embrace the real power of you, those thoughts are merely attempts at distraction and have little influence on your course unless you take action in response to those thoughts.

When I was riding my bike this morning I was struggling with my own thoughts.  I simply didn’t feel any positive energy about where I was.  I started thinking about the things that haven’t happened as it relates to my mission for this year and not feeling great about all the accomplishments I have already experienced.  The talk that emits from my head starts to chastise my lack of success as failures and shortcomings.  With that I started to feel down, disappointed, nearly depressed.  What does that do to my energy level while riding?  What impact does that have on my rides?  The entire conversation interrupts the peace, the joy, the meditation and celebration associated with my morning ride.

To turn this around I started to focus on what is most important to me as it relates to my goals and my journey.   I then start to remind myself of those things I have been able to celebrate as it relates to this mission.  Finally, I look ahead into the day and remember the most important task on my list that will continue to drive me forward toward my goals.  With that, I am back on track and enjoying my morning ride.

This was all possible because I had clarity in who I was, where I was going, and what I have already been able to celebrate.  All those beliefs and feelings are deeply embedded in my soul and my heart.  As a result, there is not enough chatter in the world that is going to interrupt my success – including my own self-talk.  Know who you are, be true to you and your mission – no voice is strong enough to interrupt that power.

About Dave Cooke

Dave Cooke is a dad on a mission. His mission is to help parents get control of their lives over the powerful, destructive influences of a child's addiction. As the father of a son in a ten year heroin battle, Dave knows all to well the challenges parents and families face. He also knows there is a way to find peace in the chaos. It is his mission to help parents discover their path to a healthier, balanced life even if a child's active addiction is still part of their daily journey.