May 1, 2011

Relationship and Learning Opportunities

“People parade through your life for a reason; you have an opportunity to learn from each one of them.”

I was giving a presentation on relationship development yesterday and share this thought with the group.  It is one of my beliefs that we have many opportunities to connect with people in our daily activities.  As a naturally outgoing person, I am much more comfortable initiating and making these connections.  When I observed the response of the audience to this comment, I realized I was sharing something that clearly resonated with them.  While most everyone else likely is not as comfortable as I am to initiate or engage those around us, I am sensing that many people recognize the power and opportunity that exists every single day to connect with others.

People come into our lives in a variety of different ways.  We may be introduced to them, we may bump into them at work, and we may meet them at a networking event or, at a function.   It is not the how or the why that is significant about these occurrences.  It is the reality that people come into our life because the paths of our respective journeys happened to cross at that particular time.  People cross into our lives because they were supposed to and it is both unexplainable and unavoidable.

When I looked at the audiences for both of my presentations there, I was being put in front of these people for a reason.  And, they were put in the seats for a reason.   I do not need to know why, I simply need to embrace the opportunity to connect with these people and discover the opportunities that exist in them being present at this time.

We are all on our own unique and powerful journey.  Part of this journey is sharing with, learning from, and inspiring others.  Each of us is looking for something at various times in our journey.  Similarly, so are others.  We do not know the source of our answers and we don’t really know when we will be offering others answers.  That is the beauty of the intersections.  These are the opportunities to discover and learn about the experiences, challenges, gifts, and insights of others.  It is your opportunity to share, listen, learn, and connect.

When someone walks into your life and engages you, make the connection. You do not need to try to figure out why these people are engaging you.  Simply be present to who you are and enable the connection.  Similarly, do not hesitate to connect with people that come into your view. Sometimes the urge to connect is enough of a reason.  A simple hello, a pleasant comment or, a sincere smile is enough to get things started.  People are paraded into your life every day. You do not need to know why; you just need to trust there is an opportunity to learn and share and enjoy in formation of this new relationship.

About Dave Cooke

Dave Cooke is a dad on a mission. His mission is to help parents get control of their lives over the powerful, destructive influences of a child's addiction. As the father of a son in a ten year heroin battle, Dave knows all to well the challenges parents and families face. He also knows there is a way to find peace in the chaos. It is his mission to help parents discover their path to a healthier, balanced life even if a child's active addiction is still part of their daily journey.