February 24, 2011

The Fork in the Road

Day 55: 29.5 miles/1:49

“When it comes to the forks in the road, there are no right and wrong decisions. All we can do is make intelligent, conscious choices based on our commitment to our mission and values.”

I have spent the last few days trying to understand how my son could have been so close to taking a huge step forward and instead make a decision to fall off the grid.  Attempting to understand the mind of an addict is an exercise for the insane; but, as a parent, I am still trying to figure it out.

Life’s decisions can be hard.  For some decisions, the choices and the options are easy.  Other times, there is not much clarity. And, there is always someone who has decided for us that the “right” decision is so obvious.  News flash – there is no right decision for every situation.  It only seems “right” to the outside observer because they don’t have as much skin, risk, pain, or fear in the outcome.

The choices we make are important.  The choices we make as it relates to our purpose, our calling, our mission and our values keep us on our path.  It is this criterion that we need to utilize when we are attempting to navigate a fork in the road.  For it is this intelligence that helps us determine the best course of action for our lives as we struggle with key and significant decisions.

Everything we decide and everything we do defines the path of our journey.  We are here today because of these choices.  In retrospect, some of those choices were not necessarily our best choices.  However, it is impossible to say they were wrong choices because we made them with the information we had at the time.  Hindset always allows us the option to analyze the effectiveness of any decision.  There is nothing to say these were good or bad choices.  It may be effective to say I could have made a better choice.

The task at hand for any of us is to recognize the keys to maintaining our values, our commitment and our mission.  It is that focus that will provide clarity to our decision making process and provide us with the guidance we need to make intelligent decisions at our forks in the road.  Even then, not every decision or action is going to turn out the way we may have envisioned; but, we can move forward in the knowledge and comfort that we made these decisions with the best of intentions and with an eye on our goals.

Avoid having anyone tell you what you need to do.  Trust your influencers to advise you on your choices.  Only you know how your decisions and your choices can guide you and support you towards your goals and your purpose.  Ultimately, it is up to you to make the intelligent and committed choices that support your mission without the added pressures of worrying about making right and wrong decisions.

About Dave Cooke

Dave Cooke is a dad on a mission. His mission is to help parents get control of their lives over the powerful, destructive influences of a child's addiction. As the father of a son in a ten year heroin battle, Dave knows all to well the challenges parents and families face. He also knows there is a way to find peace in the chaos. It is his mission to help parents discover their path to a healthier, balanced life even if a child's active addiction is still part of their daily journey.