January 18, 2011

We Don’t Know What We Don’t Know

Day 18: 18.2 miles/1:10

 What we don’t know is far greater than what we do.  Life is filled with possibilities we can’t yet see.” ~ Will Marre

We don’t know what we don’t know.  Life is filled with pleasant surprises. Life throws us our curves, too.  We simply don’t know when these opportunities or challenges will come our way.  All we can do is be prepared for them.  Celebrate your victories, push through your battles, and learn from all of them.  There is always a learning opportunity to be discovered in both situations.  What you didn’t know prior to your current experiences is what presents us with the future lessons in our lives.

How do you prepare for the ups and downs in life?  We can prepare by learning from our experiences.   One of the lessons we can focus on in the course of our daily lives is how to make our successes repeatable and how to make our miscues avoidable.

When we experience the joy and accomplishment of a successful situation, the best thing we can do, after the celebration, is understand what occurred to create that outcome.  Not every aspect of our success is always definable or readily understandable; however, we need to take a moment to explore what factors were in play that enabled us to be successful in that situation.  Once we recognize and understand what those actions, behaviors, conversations, or strategies were, we now can concentrate on doing more of that.  Experience has now taught us that those actions are related or linked to successful outcomes.  The more we recognize and understand the actions we engage in that facilitate successful outcomes, the more effectively we can consistently influence successful outcomes.

This is the beauty of our promise.  As we continue to explore and learn from all of our activities and all of our outcomes, we can begin to create an environment where we recognize opportunity and embrace the possibilities for our life.  Until we shift into this space, what we see is only what we know.  And, since we can only go with what we know, we are creating a world that has little opportunity for being different.

This is a very powerful thought.  We only know what we know until we discover more about what we don’t know.  What we don’t know is where opportunity lies.  Despite our present state, we need to trust that as we develop a better understanding of what we know and be receptive to learn more about what we don’t, it will open up possibilities that we never thought possible because of the manner in which we are shifting our thinking and our behaviors.

About Dave Cooke

Dave Cooke is a dad on a mission. His mission is to help parents get control of their lives over the powerful, destructive influences of a child's addiction. As the father of a son in a ten year heroin battle, Dave knows all to well the challenges parents and families face. He also knows there is a way to find peace in the chaos. It is his mission to help parents discover their path to a healthier, balanced life even if a child's active addiction is still part of their daily journey.