May 23, 2011

What Matters Most

“If you had no tomorrow – what would you do today?”

With all the chatter the past few weeks about the prediction of the end of the world, I started thinking about what would happen if I knew there were no tomorrow.  Would there be something particular that I would do today?  Beside telling my family how much I care for them and finding a way to spend time with them, there isn’t much else I would do.  It certainly reinforced for me how important my family is to me.  And, it helped me find comfort in where I am in my life today.

If I had to ponder this question several years early, I would have probably gotten caught up in all sorts of personal and professional relationship history.  As if the stupid, mean, and zany things I said and did really were life altering events for those people.  They were more associated or linked to the guilt I feel about who I was and the actions and behaviors I exhibited.  I can now reflect on those experiences as unfortunate growing lessons and move forward in the confidence and comfort that I have discovered a more effective, influential, and giving way to touch lives, express and share my energy, and live with passion and purpose.  Thank goodness for that.

When it comes to what it most important and clear to me, is my family.  The relationship I have with them is tantamount in my life.  My mom used to say “when you have your health, you have everything.”  And, that is quite true.  A healthy mind and body is a wonderful gift.  It enables us to do so much without many constraints.  However, when it comes to family that is the gift that shares with us, loves us, supports us, and keeps us accountable more than any other.  For me nothing is more important that the health, happiness, well-being, and joy of my children.  I want them to know that they are loved every single day.  I want them to know that I am always there for them.  And, I want them to know their importance as unique and talented individuals to others – especially me.  I love hearing from them, love hanging out with them, and love watching them do what they enjoy.  If I had to choose how I would live my last day – it would be with family.  It is that simple and that easy.

For me family is one of my most important moments. When it comes to defining my passion and purpose in life, being clear on what is important is a great reminder as to what really is significant to us.  As I work on my goals and drive myself to fulfilling my promise, answering this question helped me redefine a few of my priorities.  With this reflection I am reminded of the central importance and value of my family in my life.  I need to remind myself everyday to share and express with them my love and admiration to them.  After all, this is the most important thing in my life.  With the expressed purpose of having the ability to spend quality time with my children I can now move forward with a renewed passion on my current 100 days goal.

About Dave Cooke

Dave Cooke is a dad on a mission. His mission is to help parents get control of their lives over the powerful, destructive influences of a child's addiction. As the father of a son in a ten year heroin battle, Dave knows all to well the challenges parents and families face. He also knows there is a way to find peace in the chaos. It is his mission to help parents discover their path to a healthier, balanced life even if a child's active addiction is still part of their daily journey.