July 16, 2012

When You Understand Your Vision…

Inspired transformational change involves living in passionate commitment to our vision.  

Life’s most inspiring choices and what leads to the most compelling results is when we realize that accomplishment is success by addition.

Success by addition.

I repeated this because I would like for you to think about that for a moment before reading on.

People talk about realizing a goal, celebrating an accomplishment, or getting to an outcome all the time.  Most of the conversations involve giving something up to get there.  In reality, this may be true.  In that same reality, we might be challenged to remove something we actually enjoy having in our life — easy, convenient, fun, satisfying, a habit.  Extricating something we enjoy in our life to get to an outcome we desire for our life is a lot to ask, sometimes very difficult to accomplish, and often, not very inspiring.

How can we possibly find change a positive when the first step is a negative action — eliminating something we are attached to?

For example, take food and weight loss — the world’s most popular goal.  Whether it is a diet or a lifestyle choice or a healthy eating commitment, it doesn’t matter.  When you make a decision to eat better, the first thing you discover is you have to give something up — cheeseburgers, beef, french fries, ice cream ,desert.  For me, it would be pizza!  It is hard to make a choice to give up something you love in the name of better health or weight loss.  Unless…

Unless you frame it differently.  Closely examine why you are making a commitment to better health.   Envision what better health means to you — how you look, how you feel, what you can accomplish, the energy you have.  Now, decide if that outcome is something you truly desire.  Focus on becoming more emotionally connected to how you feel and look when you realize that outcome?  How does this success make you feel?  Are the emotions you feel about this vision of accomplishment worth the effort and the commitment?

Take a mental picture of these emotions and internalize the visual image you created from that visioning exercise.  Put this “picture” in front of you wherever you go.  That image is you living and experiencing your vision of better health.  When you carry it in front of you, you are living in that commitment to your vision.  The next time a “cheeseburger” shows up on your radar, you clearly know it is not part of your vision so you skip it.  You are now loving that chicken salad more because it supports your vision of who you are and where you are going.  Did you give up cheeseburgers? No.  You added chicken salads because they better support your vision of health in your life.  And, you can still have that “cheeseburger” for it does not change who you are in relation to your commitment.  You will not make that “cheeseburger” choice because it does not support your vision of accomplishment in your life.  In the clarity of you vision and commitment you consistently make decisions that supports the direction you have defined in your life.   And, you have not given anything up to get there — you are simply making different, inspired choices.

Too many of us get caught up in the impact of taking things out of our life instead of celebrating what we bring into our lives. Making a conscious, impactful change in our lives is a cause for celebration.  It is not a time to reflect on what we are giving up to get there.  Rather, it is a time to celebrate what we have discovered and introduced in our lives that we know will make a difference and contribute to our vision of accomplishment.

Change your perspective, focus on transformational change by addition, and live your vision every single day!



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About Dave Cooke

Dave Cooke is a dad on a mission. His mission is to help parents get control of their lives over the powerful, destructive influences of a child's addiction. As the father of a son in a ten year heroin battle, Dave knows all to well the challenges parents and families face. He also knows there is a way to find peace in the chaos. It is his mission to help parents discover their path to a healthier, balanced life even if a child's active addiction is still part of their daily journey.