November 25, 2013

Where that inner calm can take us

True peace comes from having the courage to focus on the mission at hand while ignoring the chaos of the storm.

Finding Peace - 100PedalsPeace is that inner calm that does not distract you from the task at hand so you can focus on what you have committed to without worry, regret, fear, or doubt.  It takes courage to make a focused choice.  From that place of inner calm we are able to be strong and willful to follow through.

I have witnessed many people go into highly stressful, chaotic situations.  Those moments where the pressure is at its highest point and nerves are frayed and tested.  They step up and take command and seem to be completely oblivious to the environment that they are in. Many refer to this state as “staying in the moment.”

When you ask them later how they did it, they confidently and humbly reply I simply focused on what I needed to do.  Easier said than done!

This is the difference between bold, confident execution and missing opportunity.  Instead of finding peace — that inner focus, calm and confidence — that enables someone to step into an opportunity and shine, many (me included) hesitate, examine the situation, assess our ability to succeed and then take action, most of the time.  The minute we hesitate, we have lost our focus in the moment and are now in conflict with ourselves.  We are not peaceful anymore and our courage is tested.

When I get up to give a talk, I think nothing of the situation.  I know that whether the room is filled with ten people or five hundred, that I have a story, a message and a gift.  I have been called on to speak because they trust me, believe in me, and want me to step up.  I focus on the talk, the stories, and engage the audience without hesitation. If I took one moment to reflect on the situation, I would be distracted, interrupt my energy, and likely create unnecessary internal tension at that moment when peace is my most powerful ally. The outcome of that distraction likely will have some impact on my talk.

We are thrust into situations or presented opportunities because we are capable of succeeding in them.  Having the courage to boldly, unhesitatingly, and confidently seizing the moment without distraction or doubt is what peace is all about.  Don’t give in to the chaos of the moment, find peace in your ability to be awesome in the midst of it and boldly move forward.


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About Dave Cooke

Dave Cooke is a dad on a mission. His mission is to help parents get control of their lives over the powerful, destructive influences of a child's addiction. As the father of a son in a ten year heroin battle, Dave knows all to well the challenges parents and families face. He also knows there is a way to find peace in the chaos. It is his mission to help parents discover their path to a healthier, balanced life even if a child's active addiction is still part of their daily journey.