October 28, 2015

You have to make a decision!

Decision - 100Pedals“A man’s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps.” (Proverbs 16:9 NKJV)

This verse is a refreshing, empowering call from God about planning and action. I hear God saying, “You know in your heart what you desire to accomplish. Go ahead and get started. Once you get going, I will guide you to where I desire you to be.”

How many times have you hesitated to take action, fearful of the outcome or concerned that it may not be what God desires of you? I know did that a great deal in my early experiences as the parent of a child with an addiction. Many times I found myself looking to God for that clear cut answer before doing anything. At times the silence was deafening. Now I understand why. God was waiting on me to plan my course and take action.

This verse encourages us not to worry about whether our decisions are the “wrong ones,” for God will direct your steps toward the right path once you get moving. He encourages each of us to get started, do what we know we need to do, and trust Him to lead us from there. Being that your heart is already working at being in alignment with God’s principles and teaching, it is unlikely you will make a careless, reckless or irresponsible decision. Besides, even if you did not make the best decision at the time, knowing that only comes from the benefit of hindsight after you have acted.

Every parent fears making a bad decision. We fret and worry. We pray for guidance in our decision making process, hoping we don’t make a mistake. In reality, there are no absolutes or guarantees. Everything we decide, even if it seemed to be the perfect plan, is still subject to the behaviors and responses of others. How can we possibly know the hearts and minds of others until action is taken? How can we perfectly absolutely predict their reaction to our decisions. Truth is, we can’t.

Our addiction laden, highly charged situations, comprise many moving parts and pieces. Emotions are involved. In some cases, irrationality has taken control while logic and reason have left the room. Even though the situation is highly energized and fraught with risk, we are encouraged to take thoughtful action anyway.

In all this chaos, there is one constant, the will and the plans of God. Let your mind plan and act. Do what you know you need to do and let God do the hard work He has promised to do. Find comfort in knowing He will take you exactly where He intends you to be. Trust yourself. Trust Him. That is what faith in action is all about.


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About Dave Cooke

Dave Cooke is a dad on a mission. His mission is to help parents get control of their lives over the powerful, destructive influences of a child's addiction. As the father of a son in a ten year heroin battle, Dave knows all to well the challenges parents and families face. He also knows there is a way to find peace in the chaos. It is his mission to help parents discover their path to a healthier, balanced life even if a child's active addiction is still part of their daily journey.